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Great post How To Influence Your Boss from Tina!Do yourselves a huge favor

How To Influence Your Boss

How To Influence Your Boss

I recently conducted ‘Critical Skills for Leaders and Senior Managers’ in Singapore and Malaysia; during these programs I surveyed the participants for their desired take-aways – 80% of the attendees wanted to know how to influence their boss.

Research has shown that the inability to build a successful relationship with the boss is a significant reason for managers failing or not reaching their full potential.

When I approach this topic I encounter a number of mindsets that lead to an inability to effectively influence, these include:

  • My boss is autocratic
  • My boss doesn’t listen to me
  • I don’t want to jeopardise my career
  • I have no power in the relationship
  • My boss doesn’t give me time

Do any of these sound familiar?

The problem with blaming the boss is that you have created an external locus of control which is the exact opposite of self-leadership. To influence you must ask yourself what can I do that will make a difference? The purpose of this blog is to provide some ideas to get you started:

1. Create an Ally
Allies have open and honest conversations, they may not always agree but they will listen to what each other wants and assertively communicate what their own needs. “But my boss doesn’t care what I need” I hear you cry; and my response is, do you know what they need? And have you told them what you need?

2. Finding the boss’s currency
We all have currencies, those things that are important to us and ‘count’ in relationship. Bosses
currenices are likely to be some of the following:

  • Commitment to the stated vision
  • Doing things ‘the right way’
  • Offering help without being asked
  • Doing things faster than expected
  • Providing information that they need
  • Having a skill the boss does not have
  • Acknowledging the bosses contribution to the organization
  • Activities that build the bosses reputation
  • Using your contacts to expedite a task
  • Expressing gratitude for anything the boss gives
  • Minimising discomforts and distractions for the boss

Noticing which currencies the boss responds to and paying them in these currencies cost you a little in time and energy but sets up reciprocity.

3. Reciprocity
When something does something for us we feel consciously or unconsciously obliged to reciprocate.
Reciprocation is the number one principle of influence, why else do you think marketing campaigns offer you a free gift? If your boss ‘owes’ you first then you can assertively ask for what you want.

4. Assertiveness
We are most influential when we frame our influence with confidence and conviction. So using formula
for influencing your boss might look and sound like the following:

“Boss [use their name] I understand that x [insert currency or bosses pet project] is important to you and to do this I believe that we should [insert your suggestion here].”

“Boss [use their name] I appreciate that x [insert currency or bosses pet project] is important to you and to achieve this I will need [insert your request here].”

It is my experience that most employees underestimate their ability to Influence Without Authority, whether this is with their boss or their peers; believe you can influence and you will find a way.

Check out this post I love my Tucson Chiropractor !

I love my Tucson Chiropractor

Call us Today for a Chiropractic Consultation

There is an increase in Tucson residents requiring the services of a chiropractor. Life can be stressful, and before you know it, you  may need to find a competent doctor to keep your spine and joints flexible and healthy.


A reliable Chiropractor will explain the benefits of the care he can provide.

They should include:

• Keeping your joints moveable and your spine flexible

• Improving your posture, which will increase your energy levels

• Removing pressure to your spinal cord, so your nerves can work properly

• Increasing the responsiveness of your nervous system. This will reduce the chances of you “throwing your back out” due to reduced muscle coordination.

These are just some of the key qualities to look for. Capable medical professionals should have many other traits, such as:

• Creating a comfortable, relaxing environment for their patients.

• Able to listen to their patients’ complaints without interrupting them. The more a chiropractor knows, the easier it will be to diagnose the problem.

• Explaining the diagnosis and treatment in a language the patients understand.

• Excelling in analytical skills, which will help them identify the problem more quickly, and determine the best possible treatment options. This includes finding cures for more unusual or difficult disorders and conditions.

• Showing a great personality with a good sense of humor. No patient wants to be treated by someone who  walks around with a scowl on his face. You will be greeted by our friendly and helpful staff.

Our Doctors Will Heal Your Pain

You will definitely be in good hands with one of our specialists.

Our chiropractors can help relieve your pain without the use of pharmaceuticals or surgery. Spinal manipulation is the primary technique utilized by our doctors. When you have decided to meet with one of the best doctors in town, we will be waiting to treat your neck and back pain . Some institutions advertise their high-end technology and staff, which we have as well, but many times all that is required is a person in pain and our doctor’s  healing hands. Unfortunately,  some larger offices have grown so large, the chiropractors there will treat you like any other doctor treats his patient. In chiropractic care, it’s required for the doctor to develop a special relationship with the patient, understand their activities, correct their problems, and relay information about what could be  causing your pain and how to avoid it. Our doctors take the time to listen!

You can initially do a web search for the Chiropractor  in your town and also  consult  reviews and testimonials. You should be able to  find several good doctors after this search. You can also ask your friends or family members for recommendations. These suggestions will definitely help you choose the best doctor in your neighborhood. We would love to help heal your neck and back pain! Please contact us to set-up a consultation and begin your journey to a pain free lifestyle.

Great post Kristen Wigg?s Farewell to SNL from Ben!Do yourselves a huge favor

Kristen Wigg?s Farewell to SNL

Kristen Wigg’s Farewell to SNL

In a rare event, Saturday Night Live ended it’s season with more tears then laughs.

In a surprisingly emotional send-off, cast members appeared to bid goodbye to one of the funniest women on TV and film, Kristen Wiig. The Bridesmaids star’s departure has been rumored for quite sometime, but was never confirmed by NBC.

But, after last nights episode, it seemed pretty clear.

Mick Jagger, who hosted last night, introduced a class of “graduates,” and Wiig took the stage. Her SNL costars came over one by one for a brief dance to the music of Arcade Fire, who sang “She’s a Rainbow” and “Ruby Tuesday”. Wiig seemed tearful and emotional through each dance.

She ended her dane with SNL producer and Kristens boss, Lorne Michaels.

Kristen Wiig is going to be focusing on her film career, especially after the huge success of Bridesmaid.

Wiig is a talented actor who, in my opinion, proved she can play in the big leagues. There are not many movies, especially comedies, with a predominantly female cast, that did as well as Bridesmaids.

Although we will all miss Kristen on SNL, I am excited to see what she does next. Whatever it is, I know I will be laughing.

And Wiig isn’t the only one rumored to be leaving SNL. There is also Speculation that Jason Sudeikis and Andy Samberg will also be moving on. Again, nothing has been confirmed by NBC, but Jason and Andy’s contracts are up as well.


Speaking of Bridesmaids, here is one of my favorite clips of Kristen from the movie. Enjoy!